badmikey4 asked:
My brother recently discovered one of his stepdaughters 18yr old friends , both are seniors in high school, was working as a dancer in a recently opened gentlemens club. His stepdaughters boyfriend’s, friends went to the club and saw her. With the influx of strip clubs in our area more young women are turning to these places for quick cash and a way to move out on their own as soon as they turn 18, most of these young women have been having problems at home or school. As far as we know her parents do not know, she lives with a roomate on her own so we do not know how much contact she has with them. As every young woman dancing in these clubs or acting in sex films are someones daughter, how would you react if it was one of your daughter/sons friends or your own daughter ?
I’m not even sure she is on talking terms with her parents, she walked out of the house two weeks before her 18th never to return. My brother can find out more info from his stepdaughters boyfriend, his stepdaughter keeps mum.
We chose to stay out of her buisiness, it just makes you think about our own daughters. 18 yr old women are in huge demand in the sex industry and it’s obvious they get enough takers. I still believe once a son/daughter turns 17 parents need to establish a good adult relationship with them that will continue in life as the clock moves quickly from 17 to 18.
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qteepie999 added these pithy words on Nov 08 08 at 9:15 amWe would have a BIG ISSUE
Ms. Gore Whore xx™ added these pithy words on Nov 09 08 at 7:39 pmi would be very ashamed
datgurlronda added these pithy words on Nov 11 08 at 10:10 ami would go balistic on her.. oooooo
Ghost Tracker D added these pithy words on Nov 12 08 at 4:37 amIf she’s 18 there is nothing you can do she’s old enough to make her own decisions… Though I would be making fun of her every chance I got about it…
Miriam Z added these pithy words on Nov 12 08 at 2:06 pmI would be very disappointed. I will always love my daughter but I wouldn’t be pleased with that decision.
moonshadow added these pithy words on Nov 14 08 at 9:12 pmI’ve actually thought about what I would do if my daughter did that. She wants so much I worry she will turn to that when she’s old enough. I dont think I’d like it (in fact, I know for certain I wouldn’t like it).
I guess the thing is, this girl is of legal age, and so really can not be prohibited from doing this, but she should still be made aware of the consequences of this, for her psychological well-being. I hope her parents can still “be there” for her, even if they dont like her choice of jobs.
HGS added these pithy words on Nov 18 08 at 4:55 amWe set the best possible precedents for our children as parents, but there are no real manuals on parenting. If our best was not good enough to set a good example for our children, once they are adults, the choices are theirs and there is really not very much we can do if we don’t want to push them even further away from us. The best thing a parent can do is to to be there for his/her daughter/son and to provide as much love and understanding as possible. Yelling and screaming doesn’t solve problems, but listening and talking does.
sunshineprincess032003 added these pithy words on Nov 19 08 at 1:30 amI would be very upset and hurt, but with them being 18 there’s not much you can really do or say except that its their decision and if its what they want then ok. Reason why I say this is because if you tell them No they can’t do that they will move out and do it, if they are already moved out they will no longer talk to you stating they are 18 and they will do as they please. So either way you go your going to left behind. So support them on their decision. That doesn’t mean you have to agree with it.
CHINADOLL901 added these pithy words on Nov 22 08 at 8:46 ami would go up there and drag her little a** off that stage and throw her and the car, and let these people know how old she really is and call the police on the club. and take her home and talk to her letting her know her body is something precious and only suppose to viewed by her husband,and let her know them men and the clubs are nasty and they probably got something and they want to past it around that’s why their at the club, trying to hit on them young girls showing them money because they know that’s y the young girls are up there, and let her know she have to respect her body cause if she don’t no body else will.
melodytcromer added these pithy words on Nov 22 08 at 6:02 pmI would shake her hand and tell her it is great that she is now working and not mooching off her parents. I wouldn’t suggest telling them either if she wants them to know she has a mouth and could tell them herself I’m sure. If she is eighteen then she is old enough to make her mind up about what she does or does not want to do for money. It is now her choice and she is paying her own bills so why complain or start family trouble when it really has nothing to do with you nor your own life
Lil Bits added these pithy words on Nov 25 08 at 1:32 amprya for her if dat was my child grab her and pull her out that is just nasty!!!!! im only 14 so……..
Star888 added these pithy words on Nov 27 08 at 4:59 amthis just goes to show you what overly strict parenting can do to a child. A relationship with your parents between the ages of 15-17 is so crucial. Why can’t parents just be more of a friend with their kids at this stage? Although this doesnt apply to every child, I certainly believe that establishing an environment that promotes talking about what’s going on in my childs life and their friends is a better way for communication. Guidance is necessary, but should not be hurtful or done in a way that singles the child out. Parents seriously need to understand that their kids will someday be completely out of their control. I hope they consider themselves fully responsible for what they have turned their daughter into.
buckweet added these pithy words on Nov 29 08 at 9:24 amSit her down and talk to her about it!!!!!!!!!Bye!!!!!!!!!!!
trust_amy added these pithy words on Dec 02 08 at 4:26 pmIf all she is doing is dancing then what is the problem, it can be a good way to make quick money if you don’t mind people leering at you. If she isn’t just dancing then it’s her choice if she wants to muck up her life and her parents don’t care then that’s her problem.
I doubt she would be a bad influence, her friends may even get her away from it.
Faded added these pithy words on Dec 04 08 at 9:45 pmWell first off she’s 18 so you can’t really do anything about it. She’s old enough to make her own decisions. I don’t see anything wrong with a dancer, but if she were a prostitute then the’ll be an issue with that. I’d sit her down and have a talk.
esthernunoo added these pithy words on Dec 05 08 at 11:15 pmi would slap da heck outta her, but since she’s 18……. then we’d have a big talk. I’d tell her that since she’s 18, she can either leave, start paying the rent, or qiut her job as a hoochie, and I would get her a decent job . or mayb u could set her up like how they do on talk shows where the kid gets kidnapped by a criminal(who is actually a police officer). They get blind folded, brought to the show, told all the horrible things that will happen to them, then the blind fold is taken off. this helps the children realize what danger they are putting themselvs in. Or maybe you can make her feel filthy by not wanting to touch her(like shake her hand) or touch anything that she touched.